Sort out your search

Verify Your Profile

It takes less than a couple of minutes, and without it, you’ll be instantly filtered out. Don’t be lazy. Verify and show you’re the real deal.

Stay Active

Just a few minutes a day keeps you in the game, keeps you in control, and, yes, keeps the algorithm happy.

Track Engagement

Many apps let you see which pics and prompts get the most love. Use that info to tweak and improve. Data is your friend—use it or lose it.

Update Regularly

Profiles aren’t set-it-and-forget-it. If you’re not updating, you’re fading into the background. Keep tweaking and learning.

Be Discerning

Being more discerning upfront can save you from burnout later. Slow down, remember you’re swiping on real people, and notice the details.

Be Selective

If you’re swiping on everyone, you’re swiping on no one. Casting the net too wide is a fast track to burnout and fatigue. Be selective, not desperate.

Reassess Criteria

We all have blind spots, often called cognitive distortions. If you’re not finding what you want, reassess your search criteria. Maybe what you think you want isn’t what you need.

Get Honest Feedback

Your friends might be too nice, so hit them with clear instructions like, “What first three words come to mind?” or “If you only had 5 seconds to respond to my prompt, what would you say?” Brutal honesty beats polite lies.

Align Your Presentation

If there's a gap between how you think you're presenting and how you're actually coming across, that's a problem. Time for a reality check.

Stay Flexible

Be prepared to get instantly filtered out based on how you identify. If your decision isn’t that black and white, don’t just fill up space on your profile. Keep it flexible unless it’s a dealbreaker.